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I recently wrote a very small post on taking 5 minutes to acknowledge other people are alive. I was shocked at the number of people who confirmed how difficult it is to get anyones attention. Oh My Goodness or should I say Oh My God. What are we coming to?
Giving 5 minutes of Your time to help someone is nothing. I had a conversation with my neighbor. We talked about how even 15 years ago kids under the age of around middle school did not have a cell phone. How people would call and talk, not text. Technology has advanced so fast it has taken over the verbal, hands on, acts of kindness and TIME SPENT. There are so many lonely people. Its time we thought about it, who do you really feel connected with. Who would you call in the case of an emergency. Who could you call to borrow a few dollars or even more? Who can you really say you trust with secrets. The answers to all of the above in 2016 I feel would be FEW.
I watch children interact for more than 5 minutes with each other. They talk, argue, even fight, but then they make up and become friends again. At least they are having interaction with each other. Parents wonder why it is getting harder to get through to their kids, why so many teens are committing suicide, cyberbullying is rising, and of course the obesity problem. Physical activity is a thing of the past, unless your forced to play when you are in elementary school, once you hit middle school computers are the focus. I know most kids under 10 if you ask them their favorite subject they usually say recess. However, when they reach a certain age, they will either be given a laptop from school or a cell phone and communication with others goes out the window.
Do not get me wrong. I have a laptop. I enjoy using a cell phone for emergencies. I believe computers have helped the going green subject. Many trees are still alive due to computers. However, I being a single Mom know how it is to have no one to call at times. So back to my point, people need people. I do not want to offend anyone, but I keep hearing the words, I hate people. Well, you might need someone someday. It is not all the computer ages fault.
We are all created with an inner desire for relationship. There is a part of us that needs a friend. Don’t you remember in school being the last one picked to play. Especially if you moved and started a new school system and nobody knew you, forget it.
Myself I choose to keep my antenna up for that one that might need a ride, or a few dollars, because I know when it is my turn I pray someone is watching to lend a hand. The ups and downs of life are hard enough. But to walk this planet day after day, year after year with no communication or someone saying to me, Are You OK?, this would be just awful.
I want to teach my family every human being deserves to be treated with respect.
It is a New Day. Practice being in the present, FREEDOM FROM the past AND the future. In the middle of your honey-do-list or in my case MY-TO-DO LIST, do not let interruptions throw you off course.
Instead stay in the present moment FREEDOM and turn it into an opportunity. This could mean a number of things.
The interruption causes you to LOOSE YOUR FREEDOM and focus, stop what you’re doing. I challenge you to use this abrupt opportunity to refocus on the present moment you’re at.
Look at it in a way that is beneficial to you. On the flip side, imagine if you had not been interrupted and never got the chance to take an opportunity to REFOCUS ON FREEDOM. Maybe you could have missed something wonderful?????
Time is funny, we can never ever get a moment back. Imagine what you just did, even breathing, you will never get that moment in time back. All of us need a sense of accomplishment at the end of a day.
I think the fulfillment would be that much more powerful to each of us if we stayed in the present moment FOCUSED ON FREEDOM and enjoy each task.
However, my proposal to you is to use an interruption as a chance to cherish THE FREEDOM an interruption can bring if You allow. Take it one day at a time, even one event at a time can help maintain that inner calm.
This new excitement to face fear of an interruption as an opportunity to FREEDOM may seem odd, however, WHY NOT? The interruption may even be a positive one, but even still it is something you did not plan on happening.
At the days end, if you haven’t completed your lists do not beat yourself up, always be PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED. You’re the only one on the planet that experienced what you did today!! FREEDOM
The Little Decisions and the Big Decisions can be scary. The importance of each whether little or big are both a piece of the puzzle. It can be very scary.
The Decision I made to begin this Blog was a Big Decision. The Little seemingly unimportant steps I had to make throughout the past 18 months of writing have created a community of friends that now I can’t be without.
I made a Big Decision to become vulnerable. I decided to share my depression, dreams and disappointments. Along the way, I learned the value of vulnerability. I learned the little things to matter.
My interpretation of My life has totally changed. Those Big problems became smaller and those Little problems, well they basically have disappeared.
The Decision to move after 19 years in the same place, physically and mentally, has happened. I did not think I could make the move. However, all the little decisions built up to the Big Decision.
You my friends have been the origin of this change. Your words and comments have made me challenge myself. Has it been painful????Well, I would not say painful, however, I would say I had to see myself from Your point of view. I found this VERY helpful.
So I challenge all of You who read or write to value the little beginnings…..it is a time where You learn alot about Yourself. Also, the Readers and Comments You receive are invaluable.
A Decision to Test, to stop analyzing your future and MOVE. Step Out and Find Out. I do believe You will be Pleasantly Surprised.
To save a moment in time Make a Memory. Precious memories to hold on to, they may never happen again.
Making memories is so important. Either by passing on a family tradition or creating a new tradition yourself. Also pictures are important to bookmark an event. We now have an advantage to capture memories with cell phone pictures. It is much easier to create an ALBUM of your life and family or friends. Take the time to capture the Memory.
Another thing is creating memories. You never know when the circle will be broken by a family member. It could be by marriage, moving, or just life happening. Time is deceiving, making memories only takes a moment. We get so busy we forget to make a memory.
It is so important to remind each other of the goood memories. Also try not to say something that you will regret, once its out there you cannot take it back. When this happens I chose to stay the course and hope they return safely. They will always be family no matter what.
The next generation needs our Memories to know their heritage. Everyone is so disconnected these days children have no memories to fall back on. Have You noticed because of this disconnect and no memories, people just make this one an Aunt and the other one an Uncle…… I would not trade one of my family members, step family members, half family members, family by relationships and family because they are close to my heart. Without all these humans I would not be who I am. Family can cut like a knife with disagreements but if both people work at it, agreement will come. Yes it takes effort to stay on the same page, but it is so worth it.
Memories can be good and bad. The beauty of keeping memories alive is to reflect and grow. Dreams of a perfect family, well, whoever is in my life, or crossed my path and given me advice, that is who I choose to call Family. Dreams do come True if you stay open, if you support me or even correct me because you care, your family.